This is a transcription of a conversation with a friend And he’s been having a lot of success with women, and one of the things is that he’s not all about chasing sex. Which paradoxically has led to an abundant sex and dating life.
this has led to some unique insights.
Me: So tell us a bit about yourself
Q: Yes, so I’m in my late 40s now. And to me, sex is always been a secondary consideration for dating and I think if you make sex a priority. Your one priority is to get laid. It kind of puts you in a position of powerlessness.
Me: So I love that you said that because you did this neat thing that I caught on to back in the days they would call it “flipping the script”, where you tell women that you have a six month no sex rule. Tell me about that and kind of the impact that’s had on your dating life.
Q: The six months no sex rule is kind of a shocker to women. it’s just not something they hear. what it does is it puts me in a position really screening. since I’m not really that interested in just banging them. Instead finding out if they’re cool. if there’s somebody that I want to spend time with. that just sets them at ease. Paradoxically they end up wanting to have sex because I’m the first guy to be alpha while not chasing them for sex. Also, I it means they can relax and get to know you as a person, they let their guard down and they can just be themselves and be free and it’s a great place to come from.
Me: one of the things that I’ve seen you discover is, you meet this girl and she’s very attractive and most guys go on that first date and they’re looking to get laid. So are they’re already in this position of scarcity, and then maybe they’re able to kind of keep their shit together for a date but two days later, they’re now trying to get laid. I’m not telling guys that they should wait six months or three months or whatever but what I am saying is, I’ve seen from you how women become confused, and they start qualifying themselves when you’re not just all about the sex.
and I’ve also seen that it is possible to use this to the effect where you’ve had women trying to have sex with you or trying to come on to you.
I think that’s really powerful in this age, which is a lot more politically correct. Tell me a little bit about how you’ve seen women who you’re deemed to be a perfect nine or 10 and they’re kind of intimidating. And then after you take the sex off the table, you’re sort of screening for different criteria.
Q: not putting sex on a pedestal, makes. a level playing field. You take the sex off the table and realize that they’re just human beings. Then you start looking for other qualities. So you end up meeting cooler girls and having more abundance.
Me: Awesome, and I can already hear guys saying yeah but what if I do want to get laid? This is just an example of the power of a non needy frame. Also this puts to sleep the idea that if you’re not pushy you eont get your way. Be the prize. Enjoy her but make sure she is up to par before you smash. Thanks for sharing. If guys have questions we can dive in and do this again.